Eternal Moan.

Just recently I was thinking that in US everyone want to be selfishly happy, when in Belarus everyone very tolerant to suffering. Belarus have very different culture if compare to US. What I mean?
Belorusian life is hard, for instance work. Work - it's a place, where you do something that you don't have fun to do and as days past you hate or just disgust to do your job more and more... till the moment when you practicly can't stand it. It's normal to curse it at nights when you back home. It's normal to work hard not in a way that it’s physically difficult, but in way that you don't like this work and not pleased with it. If you don't like skiing but do it every day 8 hours...you will hate it, at some point. When you working - you do it because you need money and because it's very normal - to work. After all you always can move back home and live with your parents... but you need to moan about something, so you keep working there.
At work we spend every day 8 hours. It's huge amount of time! And it comes to a point when you get up one morning and clearly understand, that you don't want to go there anymore. You just don't like it! You don't want to go in this horrible office ever again, see all this people, who in the bad mood because they hate their work, your manager (who look like he’s ready to kill you) and all surround sounds and smells of this place, 'cause it make your stomach bleed.
And here also fall with rains and cold and dirt everywhere. You need to clean all your outfit every day, because you just can't go anywhere like this. It's always cold, you don't want to walk. You watching all this nice commercials about autumn with rich harvest and tons of apples and pumpkins, about all this beautiful yellow maple leaves and smiling people in bright jackets and scarfs, kids playing in parks... When you look outside - it’s just grey sky, black depersonalized coats and umbrellas, yellowish-brown mess of old leaves everywhere and gloomy faces. It can't help you feel better!
All generations were grown up with this pattern of "moan" and environment which is poor satisfaction for eyes. All generations were raised to see wars, to lost beloved, to feel pain and to proudly suffer from all possible reasons during their whole live. If there is no war, you can broke up with your spouse and weep about your broken heart, or just quietly refuse everyone and all relatives will pity you. You can be sick with sensitive stomach, headaches or rheumatism to give them chance to say "Awww, you poor one!" You may even have a good job and wife but feel bad because of the kids, who make you almost cry. Think about something... Give them pain, show them respect - provide a reason why your life is so bad! You can't be happy all the time! At least give them a gossip that someone, who close to you, bit you when he drunk... They will know, you are friend, it's just kind of misfortune that you have a good day today...it happens. Laugh with them. You come home or met others, but you know that everyone in the same bloody life, everyone have their troubles... so spread your arms and embrace your suffer, collect it, love it and live with it. Be as everyone else!
On the other side, in US - you want to find job which you will love to do...it will be interesting and will pay you back with money and satisfaction! Everyone is happy, you like it and you want to be good at it. Your life is more for fun - to like what you are doing. Every day for 8 hours you do what fascinate you. Every day after hard work you feel good, because you did a good bunch of staff. You stressed time to time, yes, but you do what you like. At morning, when you come to work, you waving and HI-ing to everyone on your way, you look at this 'good old' walls, they already as home to you since every day your desk is your bastion for 8 hours. You having as much fun as you can.
Going out - for fun, chat - for fun, meet people - for fun. If you in a bad mood, or suffer from something - who would like to see your mean face? Who will need to pity you and share deeply your troubles? Who need it when they can turn their back to you and immediately have fun with someone else. You come home and you feel lonely... you had fun for yourself and now you don't ...now all you have - your problems, which you will not or just can't share. It's other culture...other type of people.
Also people in US know how to let anything go, in Belarus all troubles will be your fortune, you'll drag it with you all your life...collecting them as stonemills for your neck more and more till your head will dissapear benith it. I can't imagine way to explain somebody in Belarus how to let something go. I mean completely, not to think about it daily, stop worrying about it. Just let it go away and step in the other day. How is it possible to start something again, without turning back all the time and making connections with old negative experience. How to show them, that it's possible to live like this.
But when you can let something go too easy or too quickly it’s not good as well, you should go across your trouble, not on the side of it. Otherways you will let your expirience go away... Every time it will be even faster and easier... till the point, where you will almost don't care. It's scares, to think that some people live like this all their lives. It's like feed somebody with ice-cream giving him to lick just a tip of each serving and not more. You will see bright colors, fast pictures and not live, but slide through it.
Interesting to compare myself now and few years ago, what I like now, what I think, what I allow myself to do. Completely different cultures, same person adapting to it.